Relationship speaking

Dear Nigeriangirl,

I am in this relationship, which makes me feel like I am begging to be married. it has exhausted me and robbed me. the whole ish started with me just picking up his phone and then he makes this issue out of it. the problem i have is that, he picks my phone and searches it, and it is not an issue. do not get it. i have decided to mind my business, because i do not want a young man to dis respect me and make me insecure because of such trivial issues. if he decides to take a walk, i believe God is capable of healing all wounds. as usual, my only regrets will be the time i spent trying to be with a man with so much insecurity issues. I am beautiful, classy and God fearing.

one more lesson i have learnt is nevr to lower my standards for anybody. it is never worth it. you got standards, maintain it. please avoid the boytoys inclusive, they never grow up. above all, always put God first, and do not compromise on his standard. i did, and that's why am in this xxxx.

love you always

storyofanigeriangirl

Letter to the girl child 1

Dear girl child,

Why do you reduce your self to an object? Why seeking love in the wrong places? Why do you allow the sons of men determine your value?

Please note:
You are stronger than you know or think. Learn to place a high value on yourself and hold your head high. Keep your standards high.#loveandvalueyourself.

Love always,
Nigerian girl

Fulfilling Your Dreams

This morning, I decided to take a few notes about living my dreams. I thought this could be helpful to someone out there and so I decided to share.

An aspect of living your dream entails the following (not conclusive):

1.  Have a Plan.

A plan tells u what u want to do and what you do not want to do. It helps you remain focused and dedicated to your dreams and vision. It keeps you away from the distraction and It helps you manage time as well as your dreams.

2. Sit down.

At this stage, you don't sit doing nothing. You estimate the cost and sacrifice to be made toward achieving your dreams; as well as the effort. You need to learn more and research more. This stage tests your faithfulness towards your dreams.

3. Seek counsel.

The saying goes that nothing is new under the sun. You need to seek the counsel of people who have excelled at fulfilling similar dreams. There is a lot to learn from their mistakes. Most often we don't get to meet this individuals but you can help yourself by reading their biography or autobiography  to avoid making similar mistakes.

4. Take action.

Most people spend years planing and seeking counsel without actually taking-off. Learn to take visible and physical actions towards fulfilling your dreams. This gives you an opportunity to discover yourself, your strength and capacity. It also helps conquer the fear within and you begin a personal learning process.

5. Re-assess your plan.

At this point, you have experienced certain gridlock and hitches in your initial plan. You assess the plan once more if it is still effective towards fulfilling your dreams at the right time or you need some modification or work at something more realistic and reasonable.

I hope you found this helpful and remember, Live your life deliberately, don't live your life to chance.

#storyofaNigeriangirl

Living Your Dreams

Living Your Dreams 

For a while, I stayed away from my blog; what I love doing the most. I guess it's because I thought I found love. But I have discovered that the greatest love of all is your dreams. Never give up on your dreams, hold it tight and protect it with all you have got...... I remain your Nigeriangirl.

It's been a while I made any post here. like we all know being a Nigerian girl has its fun, its ups and downs.

I have just one question: Who believes in matchmaking?

My own Little Adventure

As a student of an higher institution,  we are exposed to research work and presentation of seminar papers. I had the privilege of presenting a paper once.  This was the first time I ever allowed myself make an academic presentation in front of a classroom filled with adults. All my life I have been scared of failing as well as critiques and sometimes the wrong judgment that accompanies failing; since most of the time I take it the wrong way. But this was different, I needed the critique, I needed to grow, I needed to get out of my box and start making a difference and live life, my dream, not just for me, but for everyone I came across; and I needed to start now, in this lecture hall. I realised if I was ever gong to make a difference, I have to welcome critiques, bath with with them, dine with them and think it through, but never allow them define me.

I was standing in from of the classroom, my knees shook, my palms got Wet, I felt a lump in my throat-I had skipped sleep  the previous night, since my group's research work had not being completed, plus I was anxious-  Alas! I opened my mouth to speak, my voice betrayed me. I was going to shout, but decided to be easy on my self.

Our research work was complex and abstract, virtually no textbook materials on it.  We ought to understand the concept like a bitter pill and come up with a paper.  This was the time to put all I had read and practiced into action.

At the end of the presentation, some understood my present, while others didn't. Some murmured,  some clapped, others kept quiet. A group member came forward and explained further (saved the day). the Lecturer commended our work.

No one understood how important that presentation was for me. I was not the best speaker in the group but I was chosen to present even though I did not deserve it. The presentation did not go well that day, but I learnt a few lessons which includes the following;

1. In life there will be onlookers, critics, participants, instead of sitting back, and watch life happen, participate, just a little action on your part is capable of changing the course of life.

2. Give your best always, no matter what you do and how well you do it there are bystanders whose sole responsibility is to criticise you, whether positive or negative.

3. Take that challenge and look your fears in face. take that great step you are scared of because whether you excel at it or not, your critiques would be waiting for you at the other end of the day.

4. Failing at something gives you an epiphany of discovering ways to be better at that which you failed at and tests your faithfulness to that dream.

5. The best don't get the spotlight always, so being in the spotlight is a privilege, make the best use of it.

6. Failing is a privilege as it leaves you with an interesting lesson how not to fail in the future as well as an interest way of being a better person.

At the end of the day, I drank a cup of Ice cream and set out to prepare for my next adventure...you guessed right; "Another presentation", another opportunity to make my mistakes and be criticised. I have decided to keep at it, till I am pretty good at it.
from me to me...#happyadventure